Posted by It’s the most wonderful time of the year, but it can also be the most vulnerable time for many. The reasons for the former are obvious. The reasons for the latter are variable. For many it is loneliness, the recent loss of a loved one, a breakup, health issues, financial/legal struggles or other stressful events.
Do you have an inkling that things are going to be difficult? Then let’s plan for it.
1. Stay off Social Media
Seeing photos/videos of other people having what seems like an amazing time is not going to help you. Log out, temporarily delete the app, lock the phone away, just don’t look at it.
2. Treat your body well
Cook and eat healthy food and have a planned exercise regime for every day. Not only will this consume some of your time and expend your energy, but it will increase your endorphin levels and make you feel better. No drugs. Minimise your alcohol intake if any.
3. Have a purpose
Does something need to be done? Do you need to clear out and rearrange some cupboards, or clean out the shed or maybe paint the fence. Give yourself a worthy goal and accomplish it. Not only will you have done something you needed to do, but your time will have been utilised and you will have a sense of accomplishment.
4. Social Interaction
Did you get invited to an event or gathering but are feeling inclined to pass? Go! Take a chance. You might connect with someone. As humans we thrive off of social interaction and connection. Honestly, what do you have to lose? You can catch up on that Netflix episode later. Also, google “Orphan Christmas” – maybe you could host one.
5. Help someone else
There are scores of people around that are struggling as well. Help people (or animals) in need. You don’t have to be altruistic in your approach. You can do it knowing very well that you will benefit by taking your mind off of things. Ultimately you will not only help yourself, but you might positively impact someone else as well.
6. Read a book
From 50 Shades of Grey to Deepak Chopra. Whatever you like.
7. Make a plan
What do you want from 2020? Set out a timeline. Strategise how you are going to achieve it.
8. Practice Gratitude
Shift your mind from a place of lack to a place of abundance. Every morning write down 10 things that you are grateful for. “I am so grateful for….” x 10. You may not think it, but there’s always something to be grateful for.
9. Seek Help
Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Talk to someone you trust. It could be a family member, friend, doctor or psychologist, and if things are dire call Lifeline (13 11 14).
10. Give yourself some love
The biggest bully, the biggest jerk in our lives is often ourselves. Don’t put yourself down and don’t beat yourself up. Acknowledge your strengths, accomplishments, the obstacles you have overcome and the contributions you have made to those around you. Show yourself some love.
For those who are fortunate enough to be surrounded by loved ones and know of someone who may be feeling particularly vulnerable during this time – think about being inclusive. It could mean the world to that person.